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To Decorate or Not - Holiday Dilemmas

I am facing quite the dilemma this holiday season.  My husband and I recently moved and we are still settling into our new location, home, etc.  As a result, I have not yet done any holiday decorating and I cannot decide what to do.

Should I put up holiday decorations?

On the one hand, this would be the first year in my life (I am 65) that I would not be surrounded by holiday decorations in my home.  How important is that to me?  Will I regret it if I do not decorate?  Why do I feel guilty about even considering not decorating?

On the other hand, how crucial is it to decorate when I will only have them up for a few weeks, one of which I will not even be home?  Is it worth the chaos and work or should I just relax this year?

Why am I so indecisive about decorating?

I am normally quite decisive. I examine options, then make a decision.  Yet, this time I find myself vacillating, unable, or unwilling, to commit one way or the other.

I think it is partly due to the fact I am in a new space, and I don’t feel I have had or will have time to really consider how best to approach my decorating.  I also think that I am just plain tired from all the work of setting up and decorating our new home and to now disrupt all of that with holiday decorations seems like too much right now.

I'm still recovering from my recent move

I also feel like I am just recovering from the fatigue and discomfort that accompanied the move itself.  I spent weeks packing then unpacking, getting used to a new routine, getting to know a new part of the country, meeting all new medical folk and I think my mind is trying to tell me to let it go this year.  Can I do that?

The pressure of the holiday season

Do you feel that pressure to decorate?  Or, to do some aspect of the holiday preparation that feels like a huge burden? I do believe we feel this pressure, both culturally and internally, overtly and subtly.  With all the demands that accompany holiday preparations, there is often the potential for an RA flare. 

Not only because of the physical demands but, just as importantly, the mental and emotional demands of the holidays. Happy activities and the chaos of this season can be very stressful.  Despite the fact we all know this to be true, we still seem to get pulled into the demands to the point of exhaustion at least, and likely a nasty flare if we let it go too far.

Letting go of holiday demands and pressure

Maybe it makes sense to let go of just one of those demands.  For you, it may be doing a lot of cooking, or hosting a party or wrapping gifts versus using gift bags.  No matter which one, maybe we can make our holidays a lot less likely to induce a flare if we just let go of one demand we place on ourselves year after year.

I think I may have the answer then.  I will let go of decorating this year and that will be the demand I release from my list of preparations!  I feel better already!  Try to let go of one of your tasks and see if you have a better holiday season.  It is worth a try.

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