Hmmm…. Really RA!? That was not in the plan of life after 50!

Actually, a little over a year ago, I was looking forward to turning 50!

After working and raising two children and loving ALMOST every minute of it, having them take the next step with struggles but mostly success, they have moved on into their own apartments, are successfully employed and continuously pray this will be always be the case, that they are working hard, and for the most part independently happy, a New Chapter Begins!

My plan did not include, my husband being laid off, losing our home, working 60 hours a week, and being diagnosed with RA after being so active, eating healthy and being financially responsible for the past 30 years!

Instead, it was supposed to be start planning our retirement, travel with friends a little, work around the house and enjoy weekends…………NOT!

BUT…that is okay, as much as I am hating my currently reality, I also realize the stress it creates does not really lend to my well being and has more than likely helped induce the current pain, insomnia and exhaustion I am also feeling. SO I am choosing to be upbeat and positive about this diagnosis.

Like everything else we have dealt with this year, we realize this is not in our control. So I will take what I have been given and roll with it. Take time to learn about RA and how I can best control what I can through diet, medication, attitude, and exercise.

Here is the GOOD part. We get a chance to REALLY start over. A clean slate. Create a new life after 50 with my husband of 30 years, wherever we choose and see if we can rebuild our future together differently, in a place somewhere by the ocean. Looking to open a small Mom & Pop Food Truck business, and figure out a way to make it work.

This is my story, and it can only get better from here!:)

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  • Carla Kienast
    3 years ago

    I am so sorry you’re going through this, but I am delighted that you’ve reached out to the RA virtual community. It’s a great source of support as well as connecting with people who have experienced similar challenges.

  • gnb2975
    3 years ago

    Sorry about your pain. We lost our home too, about 3 years ago, after my husband’s business went under. Sometimes I wonder if the stress of that contributed to my decline in health.

    Wow, to live by the ocean? That is truly wonderful! Not in the cards for us, since I still have teenagers at home for a couple more years. But maybe after that! Nice to have something to look forward to after the kids are gone.

    Oh, by the way, our stories both got published today. (mine’s just above). Good luck with your RA. I’ve learned a LOT the past few months.

  • Jenn Lebowitz
    3 years ago

    Hi, Wonderland!

    Thank you SO much for sharing your story with us! We are sorry about your recent diagnosis, and are so glad you found our community here. We really appreciate hearing about your approach and attitude to not only RA but life in general! We are wishing you the very best on your new life or clean slate, as you call it, with your husband! Sending you good vibes and our best regards!

    Warmly,

    Jenn (Community Manager, RheumatoidArthritis.net Team)

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