I switched doctors about five months ago. I felt really hopeful about this new doctor who was younger and well liked by his patients. He’s easy to talk to and takes lots of labs but after my last appointment I felt distraught. I’m beginning to think he doesn’t really hear me or know what to do with me. Over the weekend I became even more disheartened crying a lot about my situation. I decided to write a letter to my doctor. My question is would it be appropriate to send it or should I just use it as a therapeutic tool. The following is what I would like to say to him.
Dear Dr. Smith, (not his real name)
I’m having some difficulty with the way you respond to me. I left my last appointment feeling defeated like you really don’t want me as a patient.
I don’t understand why you won’t give me a definitive diagnosis. And why you are so quick to send me to Boston when my body does not respond to prescribed treatments.
I feel like you can’t or don’t want to understand the level of pain I deal with on a daily and nightly bases just because there is no extreme swelling or tenderness in a joint. My constant pain is real and disabling and discouraging that this is my life at 60 years old.
I don’t think you understand how very patient and hopeful I have been with your step by step treatments you have prescribed with no results. I am literally just barely holding on to my sanity from appointment to appointment hoping for some answers and results.
In some ways I think you have not been proactive or investigative in response to whatever is going on in my body. Yes, you do plenty of blood work but then you do nothing with the results. When I question what something means you seem invasive in your answers.
I understand that medicine is not a perfect science and that doctors don’t have all the answers but my hope is that we might work together to find answers toward my healthcare.
That would basically be my letter in a nut shell. I need some input by folks who understand my dilemma. Or maybe it’s just the prednisone making me crazy. Thanks for listening.