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Here I go again

Ok, it’s official. I’m having a flare up. That is why I was motivated to find this site. After several years with RA I still want reassurance from others that it’s just not me. I read several stories and can relate with the miseries described. But today I’m just pissed!!!

Not sure how long I have had RA, I was diagnosed 20 yrs ago, I’m now 57. Insomnia is a constant companion and trouble with memory recall comes and goes, not to mention pain.

Like so many I have run the gamut with the meds that would work for a while and then stop. I’ve never tried marijuana or CBD oil but I have found alcohol brings some relief at times but carries its own problems.

Learning lessons

So what choices does that leave us with? You have to learn to live with it. Accept the fact you’re probably not going to live to ripe old age. I’ve found sitting idle only worsens the symptoms, so I go until I can’t. Then I knuckle down until I can go again.

As I grow older its gets harder to bounce back from flare ups. Even the term “Flare Up” sticks in my crawl. But I refuse to let RA fully control my life even if it sometimes reminds me like a sledge hammer to the head.

Thanks all for reminding me it’s not just me.

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  • Franki King moderator
    1 year ago

    I totally relate to this. Whenever I have a random flare up I desperately want to know what it was that caused it. Have you ever looked into foods that cause/fight inflammation? For me, being aware of this has really helped to lessen the number of flare ups I get. For example, when I eat a lot of sugar or processed foods I am way more likely to flare up!

    It sounds like you’re doing a great job dealing with the tribulations of having RA and I wish you the best of luck moving forward!

    Franki, Team

  • Mary Sophia Hawks moderator
    1 year ago

    It is definitely not just you!! I am 57 also and I refuse the title OldFatSlow, so I will call you RA Warrior.

    Welcome to our community. I hope you will find camaraderie, people who care and share, and a wealth of info.

    It is hard to keep positive in the face of this disease. When I think of an RA flare, I think of when a fire flares up and then dies back down. This helps me keep it in perspective: it will go away!

    Keep fighting and stay tuned in.
    Mary Sophia

  • Lawrence 'rick' Phillips moderator
    1 year ago

    Hello OldFatslow:

    first welcome to our community. I am so glad you found us and I hope you have enjoyed reading our write ups, stories and discussions. We are thrilled you are here with us.

    I have often wondered what the term flare up comes from myself. I think it does depict the way RA seems to float along without much issue and then out of the blue it front and center seemingly out of nowhere.

    As for it being just you? Not a chance. This disease is tough and takes us on strange turns sometimes. I am thrilled you will not let RA control you. I feel the same. I refuse to let much of anything control me, I mean except my wife of course, she controls me very well.

    Rick (Site Moderator)

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