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I Don’t Have TIME for all This Pain BS!

I’m a 48 yr old divorced mom living my so called life in NJ. I have 2 adult kids who still live with me. I’m paid caretaker to my 20 yr old daughter who was born 3mos early & also has a craniofacial anomaly. She’s undergone 19 reconstructive surgeries thus far. Thank God I found out I could finally get paid to take care of her! My son (24) has battled addiction since he’s 15 in & out of rehabs & even overdosed in his room next to mine! Thank God for mother’s intuition. I won’t go into details but I busted his locked door down & called 911, did my version of CPR (not trained) & he is still with me today unscathed. Me however… I’ll never be the same. As for RH…My knees started crunching back in my late teens. I thought it was funny making people cringe when I’d go up & down stairs. At 20 I finally had orthroscopic surgery to clean it all out. That sucked. I didn’t like pain…at least not THAT much lol. I refused to get the the other one done. My Dr. told me I’d have lots of arthritis by the time I was 40 as it runs rampid in my family, but at 20 it went in one ear & out the other. Fast foward 20 yrs, 2 kids, & 1 divorce later I thought I had carpal tunnel, my hands, thumbs, & wrists were hurting. I had a cleaning business…so it only made sense. Well it was arthritis. So being too scared for shots I donned a pair of rigid thumb braces & lots of Aleve, and got away with another 6 or 7 yrs till the pains spread & got so out of control. I bit the bullet & went to pain management. Lots of blood work never showed anything. Injections, ablations & pain meds were & still are my only saving grace. As I’ve STATED I DON’T HAVE TIME FOR THIS. My pain Dr. was convinced I had RA no matter what the blood work said. He sent me to a Reum. Dr. who finally put me on a weekly dose of Methotrexate & folic acid. I just took my 4th dose and don’t ya know last week my new blood work showed RH positive, AND hypothyroid! (Both my kids are hypothyroid & are on synthroid, but their father isn’t) So that’s it in a big nut shell. I guess I too will be on synthroid. My pain is still off the charts …mtx hasn’t done anything but not agree with my intestines. My daughter can’t drive & has anywhere from 3-5 medical appts per week. I’m beat. And before ya ask. No. Their father doesn’t lift a finger to help and I don’t have anyone to help me out besides my 78 yr old dad who can barely walk due to…. you guessed it ARTHRITIS in his knees!

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  • chestnc
    3 years ago

    Hi Jade8568, I am new to this site and just learning my way to navigate around it. I wanted to commend you after reading your story as I agree with Eebtool, you are a strong woman for certain and that is what will get you through all of this. Regardless of how rough things get just hang in there. And you do have your hands totally full to say the least. It may take a while to find the right cocktail as I have had RA for the past nearly 15 years and the right cocktail is still to be found. I at this point can just barely squeak through a day and have taken an early retirement and went on disability because I just could not do it any more. My blessings and prayers are with you.

  • Eebtool
    3 years ago

    Hi Jade8568,
    Wow, sounds like you have been through a lot along your journey to get to today. I think that I may be correct in saying this, You are a strong lady and would not take any lip from almost no one, and would sacrifice everything and fight for your loved ones to your last breath.
    I am glad to hear that you have found a rheumatologist for treatment and have started medications. If you have looked around the internet you have noticed that there are many good and promising treatments out there for RA. It just often can take time to find the right combination that works right for each of us. Keep pushing forward to find the one for you.
    Now, please remember this, No one person is so strong that he, or she, does not ever need to ask for help.
    It is OK to seek out help.
    Thanks for being a strong Mom for your kids.

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