Hi . As the husband of someone with RA (my wife, Kelly Mack, is a contributor here), it is always great to hear about supportive spouses. Kelly was diagnosed with a severe case of juvenile RA at age two, 45 years ago - before modern treatments, with the damage to show for it. She has used a wheelchair since childhood and there are certainly times that I do my best to take care of her during flares. That said, she does plenty for me as well - we do our best to take care of each other. While it may be different, I have no doubt you bring much to the relationship. I thought you might be interested in this video Kelly and I made about caregiving, but even more about adapting to make the best life for us: https://rheumatoidarthritis.net/video/video-caregiving. Wishing you both the best and please know that this community is here for both of you. Richard (Team Member)