I know it is stressful and difficult to find another doctor. I have done it once and I am considering doing it again, but you are certainly suffering enough without having to hear such nonsense. One thing I have found helpful is to write a short essay about how your illness began and what has happened to you since. Give this to your doctor to read and put in your file so that you are both on the same page (no pun intended). Also, be sure to always get copies of all tests and records and keep them organized. Once when I mentioned to my first rheumatologist that I had just read an article that stated that men in pain were taken more seriously than women his response was, "Well, women are good at dissimulating." I should have known right then to leave his practice because since I now have all my records from our four years together, I see that he was always dissimulating in an effort to find out if I was faking my symptoms and pain. I think the most important thing for patients with an often invisible disease like RD is to have a doctor who trusts and believes you. Take this to heart and don't let a doctor beat you up like that.