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Trying to come out of denial

I’m 51. Started having finger pain/stiffness about 2.5 years ago that waxed/wand for months. About a year in, my feet and ankles joined the party. I feel as though initial progress was slow but is picking up the pace. I’ve not been formally diagnosed yet (denial much?) but have a gp appt in a couple of weeks. The past few days I’ve had the worst symptoms since this started. Feet, ankles, hands, wrists, knees, elbows and hips with massive fatigue.

I am so glad I found this group! Just reading those who can relate and realizing the diagnosis is what led to improvements for so many is motivation. Thank you!

  1. We are so glad you found us. We are a supportive community of people who really do get it. When you say that everything hurts, I can assure you that most of us have felt that way at some point in our journey. We look forward to having you motivate us in the future. ........................ rick

    1. Thank you again! I hope I can give back as much as I’ve already gotten just by reading posts!


      So many emotions to deal with - lots of internal lies to combat. But…



      I love the support I see here and knowing others understand means so much!


      Thank you for welcoming me in!

      1. I agree with you. I'm new, too, and I think it's going to be a good group.

        1. Hi . Sorry you have these issues, but glad you are finally taking steps to get a diagnosis. There is a good possibility that your GP will want you to see a rheumatologist. The reality is that most GPs do not have a rotation in rheumatology (it is an elective), whereas a rheumatologist has two to three years in specialized rheumatology training (for more information see: https://www.rheumatology.org/I-Am-A/Student-Resident/Explore-Rheumatology). As you move forward with this process, thought you might be interested in this article from our editorial team on the diagnostic process: https://rheumatoidarthritis.net/diagnosis and this one from Tamara on what to expect from your first appointment: https://rheumatoidarthritis.net/living/what-to-expect-at-your-first-rheumatologist-appointment. Hopefully you will get some answers and some relief soon. This community is here for you. Best, Richard (RheumatoidArthritis.net Team)

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