Does anyone in your family treat you like glass?
Made my wife upset with me today. I went to mow and she didn't want me doing it. RA was the only reason. She doesn't want me to mow, but housework/repairs is ok with her. I know this is more of a rant, but it irritates me when she does that. I know my RA is bad, but I ain't totally helpless. Does anyone else have family members that does that? I don't know how to approach the issue without coming off as an ass
Hi
. I think you may have previously seen me mention that I happen to be the husband of Kelly Mack (a contributor here), who was diagnosed at age two, 47 years ago. Kelly has used a wheelchair since childhood. She is also one of the most capable people I know and was successfully living on her own when we met. I mention all of this just to set the stage that I come from the opposite side of the equation and that I still have to remind myself on occasion just how capable she is.
I can only give you my perspective, which is to not hesitate to let your wife know when you feel like she is "treating you like glass" or being overprotective. By the same token you also have to be willing to say when you are not going to be able to do something or something isn't working for you. You'll find the balance of what works for the two of you. Kelly and I joke that she handles IT and I get things off of tall shelves. All of this is a long way of saying that, maybe take a breath to try to come across even-handed, but don't hesitate to let your feelings know - you'll both be better in the long-run. That's just my two cents. Of course, you are always free to come here and rant first (could help to get the frustrations out before you say anything 😀. Best, Richard (Team Member)
